Time magazine got everyone talking — and that’s the whole point of the cover photo they chose for their most recent edition.
The cover is a photograph of blogger Jamie Lynne Grumet, 26, with her breast exposed and nursing her son, who is almost four years old and standing on a little chair to reach her breast.
Obviously this pictures was chosen for the cover to sell magazines. It’s sensationalistic, and Time knows this kind of photo will provoke strong reactions.
Time magazine isn’t interested in educating people about attachment parenting — they are interested in selling more magazines.
I don’t know of a mom who would breastfeed in public with her breast exposed as depicted on the cover, at least not in the U.S.
I wish I saw more moms breastfeeding in public — when was the last time you saw one?
And not many moms would nurse a 3-year-old in public. At that age kids are usually not interested in breastfeeding in public anymore anyway if they are still nursing.
I very rarely still nursed my son in public when he was three, but I did it, and proudly. I never used a cover or bought special nursing tops, but trust me, no one ever saw an inch of my breasts. My son’s head was covering my breast and he was snuggled so close to me that most people never even realized I was nursing him.
I’m not sure what the headline “Are You Mom Enough?” wants to accomplish — are we attachment parenting moms supposed to feel good about our parenting choice by reading that?
Yes, I was mom “enough” to nurse my three-year-old in public, does that make me a better mom? No.
That just makes me a mom who believes that my child’s needs come first and not an adult’s feelings who might be irked by my decision to feed my child.
It’s a breast, for breastfeeding, get over it.
The subheadline “Why attachment parenting drives some to extremes” is just another way to create controversy and to increase magazine sales.
And judging by the comments and uproar, it’s pitting moms against each other, again. I just want to say to them, don’t let them, moms! Support each other, don’t criticize each other’s personal choices. Everybody’s circumstances are different, and therefore our parental choices are different. I might not like another mom’s way of parenting, but I have to respect it.
Attachment parenting isn’t extreme, and nursing a three-year-old isn’t extreme. It’s just not very common in the U.S, and just because some people aren’t familiar with attachment parenting doesn’t make it a wrong choice.
I’m glad about this cover and the story but wish it wasn’t about shock value and instead about educating people about AP. It’s about time that people realize the benefits of extended breastfeeding and attachment parenting.
I nursed my son for a loooong time. I wasn’t doing it in public, I wasn’t bothering anyone, and he was down to nursing three minutes a night but he was still getting all the health benefits of breast milk.
Nursing him that long is not something I planned to do, believe me, but I’ve done the research and there is zero evidence that it could in any way be harmful — in fact the health benefits of extended breastfeeding for child and mom are amazing (much lower risk of certain cancers, diabetes…).
People need to get educated more before they judge moms who chose attachment parenting and are okay with letting kids self-wean.
Unless you have experience with it yourself, you can’t judge a mom who nurses an older child or chooses to share her bed (bed sharing/co-sleeping) or wear her child a lot in slings or wraps (baby wearing). What’s the harm in it? Attachment parenting is practiced all over the world because it works for many families.
Kids don’t just turn three over night, it’s a very slow, natural progression, and the breastfeeding adjusts and changes with the needs of the child if the mom is willing and able to adjust with it.
I was able to stay and work at home, was always available, never minded the frequent nursing, and I never had supply issues in all these years. That and the fact that I didn’t have another child contributed to my son nursing for as long as he did.
It’s unfortunate that attachment parenting is portrayed as such an extreme style of parenting on the Time cover and in the article. If you are interested to really learn more about attachment parenting, Mayim Bialik just released a wonderful, informative, non-judgmental book about her experience with it called Beyond the Sling.
AP is about listening to your instincts and actually makes parenting much easier, I have found. It’s practiced all over the world — because it works! Listen to your child’s need and answering it makes for a happy child, and happy parent.