I rushed off to New York City on Wednesday to meet one of my role models — a fellow extended breastfeeding and attachment parenting advocate: Mayim Bialik (who played Blossom). I’m sure she’s sick of being introduced like that and I have a feeling that the success of her first book — Beyond the Sling: A Real-Life Guide to Raising Confident, Loving Children the Attachment Parenting Way — will change that.
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The event was being held at her publisher’s office, Simon & Schuster. I walked in there dreaming of one day also getting a book deal or self-publishing an ebook.
Mayim’s book Beyond the Sling certainly inspired the urge again to finally sit down and write my own book about my experience with parenting, and the things I’ve figured out along the way.
The ladies from The Moms know how passionate I am about breastfeeding activism (lactivism) and attachment parenting, so they sent me a copy of Mayim’s book and invited me to meet her on her book tour.
Mayim is as outspoken and unapologetic about her parenting choices as I am and writes beautifully on Kveller about her parenting experience.
I didn’t realize that there is a name for my parenting style until two years into motherhood.
I had picked up Dr. Sears book about attachment parenting kind of by accident and was amused that I was doing everything he said was an element of AP:
- a gentle, natural birth
- baby wearing
- bed sharing or co-sleeping
- gentle discipline
I couldn’t wait to dive into the book. Aside from Dr. Sears’ book and the Mothering Magazine, there aren’t really a lot of books/magazines about this parenting style.
I learned that Mayim also went to UCLA and also has a little Fred — Landon’s middle name is Frederick for both of his grandfathers.
Mayim and I have so many other things in common, it’s eerie.
We both decided that staying home with the kids was more important than consumerism and fancy things, and she came to parent the way she does by listening to her instincts.
I’m a huge believer in trusting your gut when it comes to parenting; it’s what has worked for me from the beginning and has lead to my attachment parenting.
Like Mayim says, no one else can parent your child better than you can because we have been given the instinct and tools to do the right thing for our children.
Mayim wants to empower moms and dads (her husband is a stay-at-home dad) to believe in our innate ability to parent our children in this gentle way.
Sound familiar? I write to encourage parents to trust in their instincts and ignore outsider’s suggestions that don’t work for their family all the time.
Bed sharing, holding our babies most of the time, and breastfeeding them on demand came naturally (but not easily!) and made sense to Mayim and me — sleep training and demanding a baby to follow a 3-hour schedule never did.
As a researcher and doctor in neuroscience, Mayim is able to explain the science behind this parenting style and why she thinks it is the best approach if we want to have children that are self-assured, independent, and care for other people and the environment.
We were a group of about 10 bloggers at this event, and Mayim instantly won us over with her eloquent and sweet way.
Here are three minutes of Mayim introducing herself and talking about Beyond the Sling:
I’m so impressed by Mayim as a mother and so glad that I have a “partner in crime” who also believes so strongly in attachment parenting.
And I’m thrilled to have another book I can point (expecting) parents to — Mayim’s book is beyond excellent and a must-read for any parent or anyone who wants to understand more about the science behind this parenting style and want to read about the journey of one mom whose kids seem to be thriving with this gentle parenting style.
From now on, Mayim’s book will be the first gift I will buy expecting parents.