Natural Birth, Bradley Birth Method, and Doula Information

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I gave birth to my son naturally — without drugs and much interference from medical staff.

I attended a 12-week Bradley course, paid for a well-trained Doula, labored for nine hours at home, and had L after only 20 minutes in the hospital.

We were discharged seven hours later and took our baby home to get to know him on our own terms.

I would love for other moms to have the same empowering experience I had when giving birth to my son. If I can do it, you most likely can do it, too!

Here are a few resources that will help you on your own journey and help you decide which kind of birth is right for you.

Natural Birth Information and Resources:

Choices in Childbirth — Non-profit organization that strives to improve maternity care by helping women make informed decisions about where, how and with whom to birth. Through education, outreach and advocacy, we provide information to the public about women’s rights and options in birth.

Giving Birth Naturally

My Best Birth — Ricki Lake’s wonderful website about natural birth information and much more. She produced the eye-opening movie The Business of Being Born

NYC Doula Services — Affordable, experienced, low-fee doulas

Bradley method

Circumcision:

Please get informed before making such a monumental, life-changing decision!

Great resources: Neonatal Circumcision, Take Your Whole Baby Home and Are You Fully Informed? and by Peaceful Parenting

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Sheri June 12, 2012 at 12:00 PM

I’m glad that you were able to have a beautiful experience with your son’s birth. I do want to make some points regarding this. I have been a labor & delivery nurse for more than 20 years, and am the mother of 4 myself. I have had “natural” unmedicated birth as well as epidural.
1) There is no normal amount of time for first labors or for pushing. If everyone could have 9 hour labors and push for only 20 minutes the world would be a better place!
2) It is important that the baby be tested for metabolism disorders. These tests are done by pricking the baby’s heel and pressing a special paper against the blood. This is then sent to a state lab, where they will be able to detect hundreds of treatable but devastating disorders. You might need to return the infant the next day in order for the test to be done. The infant must have been fed and given several hours to digest in order for the test to be accurate.
3) The birth of your child is an important experience, but should not be traumatic, frightening, or demoralizing. Do the best you can, don’t get so hung up on the process that you feel like you have failed. We are making bigger babies than our ancestors had. This can be good or bad. We,the doctors and nurses where I work, do everything possible to make this a natural, nurturing and family centered experience (Sorry for your experience, Shell, but I’ve worked in several hospitals and can’t imagine not supporting natural childbirth. I’d not work wherever it was you were delivered). We don’t want to add risk by introducing unneeded procedures or medications. If your baby is unable to be delivered in a safe manner without medical intervention you are not a failure. Please don’t torture yourself about having a birth experience that doesn’t go as planned. Your number one job is to protect your child.

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Gretchen March 22, 2012 at 9:32 AM

You have provided some excellent information. Thank you for sharing how fantastic it is to be fully present at the birth of your child. Women need to be fully informed before making decisions about birth, parenting, breastfeeding and circumcision.I was a doula myself and had two natural births; one hospital and one home birth. I found your blog from another site and absolutely love it!

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Danne December 12, 2011 at 4:14 PM

come feb 12… its going to be my turn, my first baby and im scared to death!

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Danne December 12, 2011 at 4:13 PM

wow! i am amazed! nowadays only very few women want to give birth naturally. i for one would not like to give birth naturally, i heard it is very ver very painful. i have very less pain threshold so i think i should get epidural. i cant bear pain. i envy you for your strength…

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Kristin July 13, 2011 at 12:06 PM

It’s interesting to hear about a combination hospital and natural birth since many think it must be one or the other. And I have to agree with your stance on circumcision. We left our son intact for the simple reasons that circumcision seemed like an unnecessary unpleasant welcome to the world and because my husband comes from Europe where it’s not common at all.

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Maryn Leister June 6, 2011 at 6:11 AM

Congratulations on making the right birth choice for you! That is truly empowering!

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Shell April 6, 2011 at 7:45 PM

Hypnobirthing classes and Bradley classes really work. We had our first 2 in the hospital but natural births. The nurses had never even seen a woman give birth without drugs and were freaking out which didn’t help me. I had our last at home and it was the most beautiful experience.

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Dagmar April 7, 2011 at 4:21 AM

When I got to the hospital I was ready to push and they could tell. One nurse’s comment: “You trying to do this naturally?” They were not amused. I didn’t care, I got the birth I wanted — no unnecessary interventions, I had him after 20 minutes, and we were out of there after 7 hours. If I had another one, I’d definitely have the baby at a birth center or at home.

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Danne December 12, 2011 at 4:16 PM

you guys are amazing! seriously.

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Laura March 23, 2011 at 11:50 PM

It still shocks me that so many women are having to have c-sections these days. I loved the Business of Being Born…what a great movie.
I know this sounds crazy…I’ve worked in education for quite some time…and I do wonder if there is a correlation between births that have medical intervention and autism.
I know they found a correlation between Pitocin and ADHD.
Just makes you think, ya know?

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Dagmar March 24, 2011 at 3:40 AM

Wow, yes, that makes you think…

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Sheri June 12, 2012 at 12:04 PM

Sorry- but as far as I’ve been able to determine there is absolutely NO correlation between pitocin (which is the name brand for oxytocin, the substance that your body makes which causes contractions) and ADHD. Not one single authentic study has produced this result. Could you please quote the source for this information?

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stephanie March 5, 2011 at 4:59 PM

I think every woman should be able to give birth how they see fit without much intervention. Pregnancy is not an illness. That being said I had an epidural with a difficult delievery.I dont plan on having anymore kids, but if I do, I think I would prefer the drugs for myself. I have a very low tolerance to pain on any level.

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Shannon Choe January 31, 2011 at 4:21 AM

Great info! I used Hypnobirthing (Marie Mongan) for all three of my births at two different birth centers. Wonderful experiences. I encourage women to educate themselves about the birthing process and their choices and make whatever decision fits them and their family.

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Robin January 27, 2011 at 3:05 AM

Love your ENTIRE blog and am so excited to follow!

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Alice January 7, 2011 at 5:07 PM

Thank you for this. I wanted to have my daughter naturally, but it was very difficult to find any support in my city for it. I gave up fighting the system because I thought I must be wrong, or else it would be easier. I’ve since learned through blogs and such that you just have to fight for what you want. Thank you for these resources. When I have another child, I want to be able to do it naturally.

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Summer Jo Brooks December 26, 2010 at 8:08 PM

I too gave birth to both of my children naturally (however, I stayed in the hospital for 2 days)… it was the most gratifying and empowering experience ever! I try to encourage other women to do the same – I wish more doctors would support it more…

Check out my stories:

http://www.believingboldly.com/2010_06_01_archive.html
http://www.believingboldly.com/2010/06/birth-of-anna-claire-part-2.html

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Melissa October 3, 2010 at 3:35 AM

Love your blog! I’m glad to hear that you had a good natural childbirth experience. I plan on delivering my girl naturally this winter but I’m honestly scared and feel completely unprepared! Thanks for sharing about the Bradley Method I’m going to check it out. I have also heard good things about hypno birthing. I get anxious when I think about it so I put of researching methods but I need to get on the ball!

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