My Breastfeeding Story and Breastfeeding Resources

Dagmar's Home: Breastfeeding and Extended Breastfeeding

Because I follow @DagmarBleasdale, I’m trying breastfeeding ~ tweet from Sophia
The International Breastfeeding Symbol

I have become an avid breastfeeding advocate after my experience with breastfeeding has been so wonderful and educational. I would love for other moms to have the same empowering experience.

I never imagined I would breastfeed my son for over 5 years.

No mom plans to breastfeed that long. But one years turned into 2, then 3, then 4, and I kept thinking that L would wean on his own.

He was only nursing for a few minutes for the last 3 years, but he kept wanting that comfort. What’s another year after breastfeeding him that long?

I don’t regret one minute of breastfeeding him past the recommended 2 years — I was able to provide nourishment and comfort to my son, nursed him through the few fevers he’s had in his life, and after his tonsillectomy.

Plus, we both benefited from the many health benefits kids and moms enjoy from extended breastfeeding.

Breastfeeding my son is one of my proudest achievements in life, and I hope to help other moms succeed with breastfeeding so they may feel that same joy.

I’m passionate about breastfeeding and helping moms who are struggling with it — but that doesn’t mean I think moms who use formula are bad mothers.

It’s every mom’s business how she decides to feed her child. Our job as moms is challenging enough — we need to lift each other up instead of criticize each other.

I signed the pledge to Facilitate Judgment-Free Breastfeeding

I’m not a lactation specialist, but I know a lot of resources and can point you in the right direction at 3 in the morning if need be.

Breastfeeding Resources:

Video: Learn How to Hand-Express Breast Milkgreat for emergencies, when your breasts are engorged, or when you can’t breastfeed but want to keep up your supply because of nipple wounds. (I did this for two weeks once and it kept my supply up and L went right back to nursing once my wounds had healed.)

Video: Breastfeeding Latch Trick (via Peaceful Parenting)

Side-lying nursing: A breastfeeding tutorial

Info from PhDinParenting about Breastfeeding on an Airplane

Best for Babes — Giving Breastfeeding a makeover

Breastfeeding & Circumcision by Peaceful Parenting

Kellymom — THE breastfeeding resource site. Which medication and vitamins can you take while breastfeeding? Go here.

La Leche League — I am a member of the La Leche League and can’t say enough good things about this unique mother-to-mother support network, its resources, and its wealth of information.
24 hour toll-free breastfeeding helpline service:1-877-4 LALECHE (1-877-452-5324)

Los Angeles Times article: April 2010: Increase in breast-feeding could save lives and billions of dollars

Breastfeeding at Full Circle, Westchester’s Lactation Resource: classes, lactation specialists, and store, White Plains, 914-421-1538

Mommy News
Mothering magazine
National Breastfeeding Helpline UK
Nursing — Normalizing breastfeeding. Anytime. Anywhere.
United States Breastfeeding Committee

Click on the Nestle Boycott button for more information on why I boycott Nestle.

Plus, Crunchy Domestic Goddess has a very long list of Nestle products to avoid. It’s scary how many products Nestle makes.

Breastfeeding blogs:

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Naim April 20, 2016 at 12:35 PM

A big advantage of breast feeding is that the milk is always pure; a baby can’t catch an intestinal infection from it.


Jonny March 11, 2016 at 2:40 PM

Thanks for the response! I do like your blog and appreciate the answer!


Sandra Azar December 3, 2015 at 2:55 AM

5 years! your kid is very lucky indeed. i also wanted my kid will breastfeed at least 2 years or more but after 1 year of his age he refused to have it!


Charlene March 31, 2014 at 3:16 PM

Hey Dagmar,

I am just curious if you are still breastfeeding Landon. If you are, I assume that you are pumping, no?


Dagmar Bleasdale April 1, 2014 at 12:35 AM

Hi Charlene, L is 7 1/2 years old now so no, I’m not breastfeeding him anymore :)


Meagan March 22, 2014 at 4:34 PM

I really needed to stumble across your blog today. I just stopped breastfeeding my daughter who turned 3 on March 20th. We have been talking about it for weeks, that she would be a big girl and not need milk from mommy anymore but that I would still cuddle her. She seemed ok with it, but when the moment came and it was bedtime the experience was not fun. Lots of tears…I honestly thought she would wean herself by now and never imagined breastfeeding her until she was 3. I am sad it is over, know I will miss it, but look forward to watching her blossom into the little lady she is and want her to find a way to soothe herself. I think breastfeeding is awesome, the best for both mother and child, and am in awe of those who make the decision and stick with it! Good luck to those who are doing it and those who plan to do it. It is a special experience.


Dagmar Bleasdale March 25, 2014 at 12:36 AM

Hi Meagan, I’m so glad you found my little corner of the world! :) I tried to nudge L into self-weaning for a long time — I didn’t have it in me to cut him off. I also think I wasn’t ready for it to be over from one day to the other, knowing he’ll be my only child. It was bitter-sweet, but the way it worked for us I don’t really know the last day I nursed him because it was such a gradual process, and I like it like that.


Kelly March 12, 2014 at 9:21 AM

I love your website! I never knew that breastfeeding would be so integral to my lifestyle. I had always thought of it as just a feeding method before. It made me wonder – why didn’t I know this before? Why didn’t anyone tell me how life-changing this could be?


Rachel November 10, 2013 at 3:54 PM

I am absolutely disgusted with all of the women (or men) who say that breastfeeding a toddler or any baby past a year old is more of a benefit for the MOM….are you kidding me?! They OBVIOUSLY have never nursed a toddler. It is not pleasant most if not ALL of the time. I am not in it for MY good but for my daughter’s. She is not quite 2 1/2 yet and still has a definite emotional need for nursing; she even still has a physical need for it. Breastmilk DOES keep children healthier and smarter. Not just my opinion…it’s documented. I’m doing it because SHE still has a need for it. I can’t count how many times I wished she’d weaned herself already, especially all through my pregnancy with my second, and also now that I’m nursing the two of them (he’s 2 months old). It is just ludicrous to say that women are nursing toddlers for whatever ‘selfish’ reasons of their own. It’s not easy. It’s not fun. But I AM proud of the fact that I’m still giving my daughter what she needs. Of course I don’t envision her still nursing at age 5 as Dagmar’s son did…but if she still has a need for it I’m not going to tell her “no”. I pray that IF she still is at that point it’s just a sip at bedtime. Because I can tell you this…I’m SO LOOKING FORWARD to having my body back to myself, and getting to drink a Dr. Pepper or an occasional beer or margarita if the desire hits me. I can’t wait!! Of course this is a time period in my and my childrens’ lives that I will look back on fondly and maybe sadly one day that it’s done…but that doesn’t mean that I don’t fantasize about being through with breastfeeding too!


Dagmar Bleasdale November 11, 2013 at 8:20 PM

Hi Rachel, thanks for your comment! I agree with you. The people who have a problem with moms nursing older children haven’t been in that situation to be able to nurse an older child, or they’d understand that in some situations you just find yourself with an older child and follow their lead and let them still nurse because they still want or need it.

I loved nursing L, also when he was older. It was a few minutes of snuggle time with him on the sofa or before bedtime that I cherished so much. And I was able to comfort him with it when he wasn’t feeling well or needed that closeness. I can imagine that nursing an older child when you are pregnant is quite a feat, and that’s why a lot of moms wean then. But I didn’t have another child, another reason why L got a chance to do it so long. I’m glad for every minute. Wishing you all the best for you and your kids – they have a wonderful mom who listens to their needs.


Meagan March 22, 2014 at 4:45 PM

I enjoyed reading your post. I feel the same, disgusted that people view breastfeeding a baby or a toddler as a negative action. It boggles my mind to meet people, especially those who have children, who pervert the act of breastfeeding and do not view it as necessary. I’m like “hello! what would those who do not breastfeed feed infants if formula had not been created?” I chose to stop breastfeeding my 3 yr. old daughter a couple days ago and it was a very tough choice to make-whether or not to let her wean herself. That was my plan, but I thought she would wean before the age of 3. More power to all you moms who do let the child self wean : ) And while I do not judge those who do not breastfeed, I expect the same courtesy in return. Unfortunately, so many have an odd and misinformed perception of breastfeeding, whether it be an infant or a toddler.


Dagmar Bleasdale March 25, 2014 at 12:28 AM

Hi Meagan, thank you for your comment. Yes, much still has to change in the mind of people who feel breastfeeding a child, no matter what age, is wrong or even their business. I was so proud to breastfeed and so happy to do it as long as L wanted to. I certainly was a surprise how long he did it :)

You did a wonderful thing breastfeeding her for three years, and I hope it will be an easy transition.


Breastfeeding in Public August 26, 2013 at 7:39 PM

It could easily be argued that a parent’s role in their child’s life is to help them become independent and function in society, and that breastfeeding older children may stunt or interfere with their emotional well being. Others may argue that it is the parent’s role to set an example and establish boundaries, not the child’s.


Dagmar Bleasdale August 27, 2013 at 3:58 PM

There is no evidence against extended breastfeeding, and my child asked for it and was never a clingy child. So I did what felt natural – let him self-wean when he was ready, which was longer than I had expected and longer than most kids. But I was totally fine with that. He has wonderful memories of being nursed.


miami liposuction June 21, 2013 at 10:33 AM

when you are a new mom your body goes through so many changes! breast feeding can change the way your breasts look, and pregnancy can effect your body, as well. there are always cosmetic options to fix these issues though :)


Meredith May 24, 2012 at 11:13 PM

I agree with you about the benefits of BFing, but am also relieved to read from a woman so “hard core” about it (I mean, your son is 5!) that you do not judge women who give their babies formula. My son will NOT latch on and trying to BF has been a sad, frustrating, painful, and difficult experience for me since he was born ;(. Luckily I have a lot of milk and am able to pump. My son has been exclusively drinking my milk since he was about 4 days old. But I now understand why some women give formula; BFing is not a wonderful, peaceful, perfect experience for every mother, unfortunately.


Dagmar May 24, 2012 at 11:42 PM

Hi Meredith, breastfeeding is difficult for many moms, that’s why I want to help with resources and cheering on. And yes, it’s not for every mom or situation. But it’s wonderful that you are pumping! It’s double the work and I commend you for your perseverance. I never had to deal with pumping.


Michelle February 29, 2012 at 1:53 AM

I breastfed both of my children and I definitely see the benefits and the bond created, but by the time the children are walking and talking and fully grown toddlers, I think continuing past age 2 is obscene. IMHO, it has nothing to do with the health benefits of the child and entirely based on the neediness of the parent to feel like the caretaker and nurturer. Certainly by the time your child is in Kindergarten you should NOT be breastfeeding anymore! I truly believe children who are breastfed at this age are going to have some negative psychological impact from it! We breastfeed our children when breast milk is the only nutrition they need, its God’s way, but once they are old enough to eat a full balanced diet, breast milk is not necessary anymore.

Seriously when does it end?


Sally March 14, 2012 at 9:43 AM

Michelle, I do agree with you but am wondering about this. I just wonder what age extended bf’ing usually ends…Is it as a teen or older child??


Dagmar March 14, 2012 at 11:56 PM

I assume this isn’t a serious question…


Sally March 15, 2012 at 9:20 AM

I was serious, but I do understand I probably won’t get any answer. I have tried to figure it out. The oldest I found was six or so, so I would imagine beyond that age people aren’t comfortable disclosing it-which I get.


Dagmar March 15, 2012 at 9:49 AM

Extended breastfeeding ends whenever the child or mom are done. You know that L is over 5 now, but I’ve heard about children who are 7 or 8. But that is very rare. At some point nature steps in and has the kids unlearn how to suck.

Sally February 26, 2012 at 2:43 PM

I was wondering is there a certain age to end it when you are doing extended breastfeeding…Curious is it like 8, 10, 16?


Pina February 23, 2012 at 11:12 PM

I wish I had discovered your blog while I was breastfeeding my son. We had some problems early on and since I didn’t get as much help as I should have ended up exclusively pumping from about week 10 to one year.


Dagmar February 24, 2012 at 8:43 PM

Pina, it’s great that you hung in there and pumped for that long! One year is amazing and so much longer than many mothers breastfeed their kids.


sarah January 15, 2012 at 10:44 PM

One of the best things motherhood had given is the gift to breastfeed. It is very practical, accessible and a great bonding time with your babies. I can just imagine the saving I got when I breastfed, and the sleeping hours I had because you do not have to rise and get the bottle. You can actually feed your baby while lying down. In fact, i even encouraged my younger sister to breastfeed her kids and was very thankful that she did.

It is best to continually promote breastfeeding at least on your baby’s first 6 months. Now when one is working, one can at least wean him a bit, bottle fed in the mornings but breastfed in the evenings. But to each her own weaning styles. Because I was a sahm when my kids were young, I breastfed then until they 8 months old. And I am thankful and now share that experience,especially to starting mom’s who just gave birth. You can do it.


OurGrowingGarden July 8, 2011 at 10:57 PM

How awesome that you have collected all these resources together! I think as breastfeeding mothers the best support we have is from each other. I have received SO much encouragement through the breastfeeding community!

Our Growing Garden


Uyo February 26, 2011 at 8:04 PM

This is a great one-stop shop for breastfeeding resources! Thanks, girlie!


Savanna December 31, 2010 at 7:16 PM

Wow……I just made 17 months in BF’ing. I have to agree with the benefits 100 times over. My daughter has not been ill much. She has had the sniffles a few MONTHS back…but that’s it.

Happy New year of nursing!


Andrea November 12, 2010 at 4:08 AM

Those are great resources. It makes me so sad when moms give up. Especially mamas of twins. Thanks!


Rhonda October 19, 2010 at 3:29 PM

Just a note to those who disagree with extended breastfeeding. I breastfed my autistic son until he was three and a half. I am grateful that I did so. I think it helped with his attachment disorder. He is now 21 and most are unaware of his diagnosis. I am not saying breastfeeding cured him, but as part of the attachment style parenting I did, I am sure it helped


OurGrowingGarden July 8, 2011 at 10:58 PM

You followed you instincts and extending breastfeeding him certainly did not hurt him!


MommaOf3Babies August 16, 2010 at 12:56 PM

I was unable to breastfeed all three of my children because of my medical reasons. I feel that breast feeding a BABY is a wonderful thing and something all mothers should do the first year or so. I do have feelings and concerns when it goes beyond that. If there is no medical need or medical necessity (preemie baby or medical condition of child) then I think that it is more of a benefit for the mother then the child. When a child is old enough to look at the mother and ask for breast milk I think that it should be given to them in a cup if the child’s doctor gives the okay to continue drinking it. In my opinion and feelings that when giving the actual breast to give breast milk to an older child will have more con’s then pro’s in some way or form. I have no proof or examples but a person opinion…I personally feel that when a Kid can say “Mom I need the boob….” (as an example) its time to step back and say… what other ways can I give him the same kind of benefits as he or she gets from breast milk and what other ways can I bond with my child.

Sorry if this upsets anyone but its a personal opinion and from what i have seen being around others who have breast feed their BABY.


Tracy October 21, 2010 at 10:15 PM

The World Health Organization recommends continued breastfeeding up to 2 years of age or beyond.

And I say Breastfeed as long as you & baby want. :)


OurGrowingGarden July 8, 2011 at 11:00 PM

My son is about to be one. Why would I wean him when he’s not ready? To please society? Probably not. The advantages of breastfeeding don’t just disappear when a child reaches a certain age. I think breastfed toddlers are more confident and secure because they know they have one constant that will be there as long as they desire.


Anita Jamshidi August 5, 2010 at 1:52 AM

As we are in Breastfeeding Awareness Month, it makes me so pleased to read comments about moms who persevere and believe in the benefits of breastfeeding. I, as an inventor of a product to help in nursing, wanted to encourage moms to keep these words of encouragement going. If we all realize that challenges will always be part of the process, but that the process/journey is one traveled with other women in our same situation…then the journey is an easier and exciting one to undertake!


Erin July 29, 2010 at 7:17 PM

I’m a huge supporter of breastfeeding, for however long it lasts for any Mommy and baby. This post is great for breastfeeding Moms looking for support– I retweeted it to my followers. Love it!


lindsey May 20, 2010 at 1:40 PM

Great list! I really love the Milk Maid tea. I drank it religiously when I first started breastfeeding. I still drink it once in awhile if my son takes a little break for a few days.


Suzanne April 26, 2010 at 8:49 PM

Hi Dagmar! So nice meeting you last week at the Bread Art Project! I’m glad to have met a fellow breastfeeding fanatic. I forgot to ask if you’re a donator too. I’ve donated over 3000 ounces for Haiti. Hope to run into you again real soon!


Freestyle Mom December 28, 2009 at 7:16 AM

The list of blogs is very helpful. I really didn’t know there were so many specializing on breastfeeding.


Samantha @ Mama Notes October 14, 2009 at 4:25 AM

Thanks for all these great links!


Stephanie March 4, 2011 at 3:12 PM

I think the Muslims have exactly the right idea on breastfeeding and when to wean. In the Quran it is a child’s right to be BF until the age of 2 preferably by their mother or a wet nurse. Im not keen on wet nurses or milk banks with all of the diseases out there. However, Im of the opinion that a child needs to be off the breast or bottle around the age of two.


Yasmina January 29, 2014 at 4:32 AM

Yes, we Muslim have to bf our child up until he/she is 2 years , but wet nursing? I have no idea where you get the idea cause that’s against it unless the child has no mother or adopted.

Dagmar, I thinks it’s great you bf your son! If it’s up to me it could be forever. That’s how wonderful and beautiful breast feeding. I struggled bf my first son of lack of knowledge/unprepared and no help outside. However, I was determined to do it better with second child and now today he is 14 month and still doing! It’s best feeling and amazing emotional bonding.

Thanks for your resources I know Kellymom has helped me a lot of info on her blog


Sally March 15, 2012 at 11:14 AM

Thanks for the response! I do like your blog and appreciate the answer!

Reply September 1, 2012 at 1:50 AM

Based on an article in Reader’s digest, there is really no limit when it comes to age for breastfeeding. As long as there is still milk coming out, you can breastfeed your child. But definitely, you would not want to breastfed your school-aged child anymore so you might as well end when the child already goes to kindergarten. Hope this helps.


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