I can’t imagine the nightmare those poor parents who lost their children must go through right now. I learned about the death of those 20 precious children right before I was able to pick up my child from the school bus.
No parent should ever lose a child to gun violence. I personally don’t believe that guns in the schools are the answer — no teacher will be able to load a gun in time to stop a gunman on a mission like that — but maybe metal detectors are the answer so guns can’t get into the school.
I found this on the site Majors Against Illegal Guns: “In the 10 years since Columbine, more people have died from gun violence than soldiers killed in World War II” … “In 1988 and again in 1997, Britain introduced strict gun-control laws in response to a mass shooting. Last year (2009), there were 42 gun deaths in Britain, a country of 61 million people. There were more than 30,000 gun deaths in the United States.”
Australia banned assault weapons after a tragedy 16 years ago and there hasn’t been another such tragedy since then.
There is no reason a civilian should be able to own semi-automatic assault weapons — those laws need to change or these tragedies will keep happening.
Guns don’t stop guns — the will of the people stops guns, as seen in the example of Britain and Australia. And taking better care of people with mental illnesses.
I want strict gun-control laws, but I want to address something else: when will we finally take a stand in this country and say enough with the violence — on TV, in movies, in video games, on YouTube, on the front page of newspapers and magazines?!
I’m bringing this up because I do believe that kind of constant exposure to violence and desensitization plays a role in the Newtown gun violence and those kinds of tragedies, and the violent acts that happen every day in this country that we don’t hear about because they happen so often that it’s not newsworthy anymore.
No matter how much I try to shelter my son from images of violence, they are everywhere!
Parents, let’s stand up and say enough is enough! Don’t support violent kids movies with characters that punch each other every few minutes. That’s supposed to be funny? It sends such mixed signals to children.
And violent commercials are allowed to run on TV all day, when little kids can see them. That’s NOT okay!
Why are they allowed to run at all?! Who needs to see commercial for violent movies? If you are an adult and want to see such a movie, go see the movie, but the rest of the public should not have to suffer through gratuitous violence, especially kids, not even for 30 seconds.
How can we teach kindness to our children and being nice to each other when kids’ favorite TV and movie characters are mean and foul-mouthed, and hitting each other?
And then that kind of brutality gets played down and shown as not hurting the character at all, and we are surprised when some kids start hitting their siblings or classmates and don’t realizing that that inflicts pain.
For me, that means not allowing my son to watch more than preschool shows like Little Bear unless I watch the show or movie with him. It means ignoring the criticism of other people who think I’m sheltering him too much or that I’m overreacting. I believe in gentle parenting. I want to guard his little soul from the negative things in this world, and I don’t see how that can be a bad thing.
I try my best to shelter him from aggressive, violent TV shows, and we don’t go to the movies much because the movies Hollywood makes and thinks are appropriate for kids I don’t find appropriate for my child. Just because everyone is running to that new movie doesn’t mean it’s a good movie with a positive message.
Common Sense Media is a great resource with information about what age is recommended or appropriate for movies, video games, books and TV shows.
After reading their information and reviews about the new Ice Age movie, Ice Age: Continental Drift, I wouldn’t pay money to see it with my son, for example.
Apparently, it includes “some cartoonish violence, mild romance, a smattering of insults, and some scatological humor.” The reviews also mention “name-calling, including “freak,” “wiener,” “stupid,” “loser,” “idiot,” “tubby,” “cry baby,” and “pinhead.” It gets better: dialogue that includes “I’ll bury y’all and dance on your grave” and plenty of other verbal threats about killing someone. That is not the kind of movie I want my son to see.
Most parents wouldn’t allow that kind of language in their home, yet looking at the box office numbers those kinds of kids movies draw, ten thousands of parents pay money for their kids to hear that kind of language and see violent behavior. It’s disappointing and a sad reflection on our society, in my view.
We are better than this, and we can and need to do better for our children. There is no need for cruel language and violent images in our lives, none. Enough with this culture of violence.
We need to be our children’s biggest advocate. Unless we stop going to those violent movies and demand more child-friendly, positive stories on TV and the movie screen that enrich our children instead of disturb them, things won’t change. Don’t we all want a more peaceful world? Change is always possible — we just have to be willing to open our mouths and demand our voices to be heard.
Join me and be a Parent Against Violence:
- don’t support movies with violence in them — cartoonish violence is still violence
- support movies and TV shows that have a positive, loving message
- as best as you can, shield your child from violent TV shows and commercials
- don’t buy papers and magazines that have pictures of violence or war on the front page that kids could see
- have a civil, factual discussion with people who think it’s okay for their kids to see violent behavior
- speak up against this culture of violence
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I found this really helpful: Talking to Children About Violence: Tips for Parents and Teachers
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What do you think? Do kids nowadays see way too many images of violence? Do you think that plays a role in the kind of gun violence we see in America?