Boob Job After Breastfeeding?

by Dagmar Bleasdale on June 27, 2011

Signing “I love you.”

I was stunned to find out from this discussion in MckMama’s forum how many moms would want breasts implants after being done with having kids or breastfeeding. I asked around on Twitter and again the same response: most moms who replied would want a boob job.

I had small breasts before I had my son — barely an A cup — and breastfeeding has been the best boob job I could have asked for! My breasts are a size bigger and I would love it if they’d stay this way, but I’m bracing myself for them to deflate and go south after 4.5 years of breastfeeding. And I’m okay with that.

I can’t imagine getting breast implants, for many reasons.

I can’t imagine risking and going through that elective surgery, and I don’t want a foreign body in my body. That must feel so odd! I’m looking forward to getting back into shape and I think big boobs will only get in the way.

Plus there is the cost – I’d rather put that money toward my son’s college fund. But maybe a lot of the women who get breast implants have enough money that they don’t have to choose between one or the other.

I’ll op to wear my deflated, small boobs proudly after the marathon of breastfeeding they have been through.

They’ll be my deflated badge of honor. Nothing a push-up bra can’t fix.

Is there a chance that I might change my mind? I guess there always is, but they are slim.

Only if they find a less invasive way to make breasts bigger, like pump them up like a bicycle tire.

You want perky, fake-looking breasts after being done with having kids? You think that is going to make you happy? Then go ahead and have a boob job.

I’m simply stunned how many moms would consider getting breast implants. I guess I always thought that fake boobs are mostly a Los Angeles phenomenon, because so many women have them there.

I totally understand women wanting a breast reduction because of back pain, that’s a medical reason. I just think it’s a sad commentary on our society that so many moms feel the need to “fix” their bodies after having children to feel better about themselves. As if moms are damaged goods.

Moms are not damaged goods — our bodies did something amazing: they created, carried, and birthed new life! That should be the focus, not an extra inch of sagging skin that only your husband/partner sees.

Some women never breastfeed their babies because they believe the myth that breastfeeding causes breasts to sag, and that is simply not true. As a breastfeeding advocate, this has me throw my arms in the air with frustration.

Multiple pregnancies and smoking, not any length of breastfeeding, cause breasts to head south, as documented here and here.

Many babies and mothers never get the health benefits of breastfeeding because of a silly myth and misinformation, which is so unfortunate.

Nursing a baby, even for a short time, gives the baby so many health benefits for years to come, and there are many health benefits for the mother, like being less likely to have certain cancers.

Plus, the fact that a mom would decide not to breastfeed because of vanity to loose her perky boobs shows how wrong our society’s priorities are. Unless those moms are ignorant about the benefits, I find it superficial and selfish to not breastfeed for this reason alone. Perky breasts or giving my child the milk that it is specifically designed for him, let me think…

I really thought women had become more self-assured. I guess I was wrong. It still seems to matters more what society thinks and many women feel bad enough about their bodies that they are willing to do something so invasive, painful, and costly as getting breast implants.

People sexualize breast so much that they forget what breasts are for — for feeding babies! And it’s a blessing if you are able to do it.

Women die after having plastic surgery. Just the other day I saw a TV story of a mom who had saved up for elective surgery for years and died, leaving her two kids without a mother. Those outcomes are rare, but are you willing to take that risk? I agree with Gina, The Feminist Breeder. She tweeted: “Not risking my life for boobs.”

Plus, what kind of message are we sending kids, especially girls? That mommy needs to fix her body after having kids? For that reason alone I wouldn’t do it.

My body looks different after having a child, but I knew it would. Any woman who has ever been pregnant knows that it changes your body. But sagging breasts are a small price to pay for having given birth to my son — I’d do it all again.

I’m in no way happy with all of my body. Believe me, I struggle just like the next woman with feeling sexy and pretty. I’m unhappy with the extra pounds I’ve put on, but I’m not defined by those 10 extra pounds — and fake boobs are not on my wish list.

A flattering bathing suit is.

{Photo credit goes to Katrina Anderson. Her blog At Mother’s Breast is simply stunning, and I want to cry seeing these pictures of another mom breastfeeding an older boy in public, who reminds me of Landon. Thank you, Katrina, for your amazing, beautiful pictures and stories!}

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Bungalow Babe March 13, 2012 at 11:34 PM

Amen, sister.

We’re obviously in the midst of an epidemic of hysteria about aging. Women’s minds are being poisoned by images they see of some manufactured female ideal. I suppose the critics of the Barbie Doll were right; that doll…with its disproportionate bosom…really did pervert women’s minds and aspirations.

Fear plus money equals plastic surgery, that’s all.

In our uber-consumerist society, almost anything can be purchased. “Used breasts” now can be repurposed, rejuvenated, refreshed.

As the mother of two adults and one who breastfed a total of six years, I am breathless at this widespread idiocy.

My breasts are not deflated. They are not ruined. They are not as perky as they were when I was a teen but I would never wish to relinquish everything I have gained between that time and now just to get back my “old” breasts.

My breasts served valiantly as sources of my children’s nourishment and they provide pleasure for me and for my #1. They have been my friends for a really long time. I delighted when they ballooned with milk and then happily reclaimed them they reverted to their former proportions when I weaned my youngest child.

Are they perfect? Nope. But a good bra makes them look pretty damn amazing. I see women my age with “done” breasts and think that they look pathetic because when you buy a set of new breasts, you give up something invaluable: your authenticity.

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Dagmar March 14, 2012 at 1:22 AM

So well said, thank you for this comment!

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Backwards Amber January 4, 2012 at 11:40 PM

I’ve always hated my breasts. They’ve never been something I’d want to show off topless (though they’ve always been nice enough in a bra). I breastfed for almost 2 years with my first and I’m pregnant again….we’ll nurse for as long as it works. I don’t see a huge difference in size/shape/etc, but I still don’t like them.

That said, I’d love a lift when we’re done. I agree with you that implants seem like they might feel weird. Hell, I didn’t like how it felt to have an IUD in, because it was a foreign object. I’m guessing fake boobs would feel just as foreign. To me at least.

But…….a lift, using just my own tissue….that seems ok. Though, the cost…well that’s a little off-putting. Well, that and the pain and recovery. Ah, we’ll see how everything looks and feels if I can ever get back to a comfortable body size :-)

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Dagmar January 5, 2012 at 3:47 PM

Thanks for sharing this, Amber. I’m not crazy about my little breast either, and a lift sounds lovely, but I’m just not comfortable going under the knife for that.

Maybe we could encourage each other to lose weight in 2012? I want to lose 10 pounds and get toned again.

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eB August 2, 2011 at 8:26 PM

My breasts weren’t perfect prior to breastfeeding, so I really had nothing to lose. They were saggy. I don’t know if that’s genetics or the fact that I was/am overweight or what. The good news is that even though I was self-conscious about my breasts, my husband has always loved them because he loves me. That is seriously the biggest confidence boost in the world. Would I like to have a more perfect body? To be totally honest, yes. But it would be a long path I would have to go down to get there and to fight the aging process (not to mention the effects of pregnancies). I don’t want to start down that path.

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Meg July 22, 2011 at 3:48 PM

I would never consider a boob job after breastfeeding. Reconstructive surgery after mastectomy, yes, because I see that as restoring something that an illness took away. But for me the physical changes of pregnancy/parenting are just part of life! I am not aiming to keep myself exactly the same in any way on this journey but I’m constantly changing and hopefully growing. I reject the notion that my body is somehow inferior or less desirable because I’ve nourished my baby with it. That is God’s gift and I am thankful for it! “The LORD does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.” 1 Samuel 16:7

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Dagmar July 23, 2011 at 2:19 AM

Amen. I agree with everything you said, Meg :)

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Mandy W. July 11, 2011 at 12:46 PM

Ouch. This is your place to speak freely but I encourage you to not make light of other people’s decisions. Not everyone has perky, full breasts while breastfeeding, some of us have pendulous breasts that are hard to live with.

I’ve gone over my decision to have a breast reduction and lift for almost ten years. I’m scared to die from this procedure and my daughter’s knowing it was over boobs. I’m a lacation consultant who adores the breasts! I also have DDD breasts, fight chronic yeast infections under them, have back pain, cannot find clothing to fit my boobs and my waist, pay $75 for bras that only last a couple of months, cannot walk around my house without a bra, because they hang out of my shirt, on and on and on. If you were to see a picture of me you probably couldn’t realize all of these things. So when I do get my lift in the next year or so I know that I will get harshly judged. As far as my husband goes. He just wants me to be happy and healthy. He doesn’t care of my going from a DDD to a C. My kids rub my back because of my back pain. I have faith that they will understand why I will have the surgery.

I encourage you to keep being a breastfeeding advocate and pro-mom. Please just remember that judging others hurts all of us.

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Dagmar July 12, 2011 at 1:12 AM

Hi Mandy, in your case getting your breasts operated on is a medical issue and I don’t see anything wrong with getting that issue resolved. I hope all goes well. Thank you for your comment.

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