Facebook Deletes Leaky Boob Support Group for Breastfeeding Moms

by Dagmar Bleasdale on January 2, 2011

I just found out that Facebook deleted the Leaky Boob page, a support group of moms who helped each other out about questions concerning breastfeeding.

Their justification? They deemed some picture that were posted of moms breastfeeding their children as obscene. COME ON!

It’s ridiculous and such a sad commentary on our society in America that there is porn all over the Internet, we see breasts all over TV and in movies, but God forbid we see a little nipple in pictures of a child nursing, the most natural thing in the world! Get with it people, breasts are there to nourish babies! Why don’t we fight for getting gratuitous, senseless displays of violence off the Internet, TV and out of movies?

Don’t get me started, as a passionate and outspoken lactivist who wants to make the sight of mothers nursing in public more common so more moms feel comfortable nursing in public and more moms try and stay with breastfeeding so they and their kids can enjoy all the amazing benefits of it, Facebooks decision bothers me to no end.

But forget about Facebook, they are just all about business. Why even try to get the page back up? They have the right to all the pictures you post there, so why have them benefit? I’m seriously considering to delete my Facebook account — I’ve about had it with them.

To any mom who would like to post a picture of herself nursing her child, I’d be happy to put it up on my blog. And I’d be glad to add an extra page on Dagmar’s momsense to make up for the support and friendship that was lost in the community of the Leaky Boob.

Please chime in and let me know if you would like me to do that. We can create a whole other community of breastfeeding moms — I’d love to facilitate that. For immediate help and support, check out my Breastfeeding page for resources.

BTW, I already created a breastfeeding support group in my BlogFrog community, come and join that one for sure :)

Let me know how I can help to keep the group of moms of the Leaky Boob together.

Update: If you want to support the reinstatement of the Leaky Boob page on Facebook, please like this page — as over 7,4000 people have done already! The Leaky Boob support group page was the extension of Jessica’s wonderful blog, the Leaky B@@B, check it out.

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Mari January 17, 2011 at 1:44 AM

My two children were born in 1980 and 1983, in Berkeley, CA. I was active in LLL and in a play group. It seemed everyone I knew was nursing. In fact two of my best friends were nursing a toddler and a new baby. At church it was common to nurse while sitting in the pew during worship. No one was shocked and no one complained. I never gave nursing a second thought. It was what I did, on demand, and it didn’t much matter where I was.

Then we went to Disneyland. We promised our 4 year old we would go to Disneyland after the baby was born. My husband was in graduate school at the time and had a week before he had to begin teaching again, so we went. Disneyland was not open to nursing on demand. As I sat on the bench to nurse the baby while my husband and 4 year old went on a ride, I was politely confronted by a Disney worker letting me know I needed to go take a seat in the “nursing room” to do this. I was completely shocked. My boobs were made, by God, to feed my child and that was what I was doing. I ended up in a rocker in the nursing room.


Angela (Toucan Scraps) January 7, 2011 at 10:08 AM

This it absolutely nuts. I used to be part of a local support group until my eldest developed a medical condition that meant I couldn’t commit to the group anymore. I’ve even done breast feeding in public demos – most people were completely unaware that i was feeding. When they came to ask when the next demo was at the counter they were pointed in my direction. I was using a huggababy sling.
This scrapbooking page of mine might benefit someone:


Erica January 5, 2011 at 4:26 AM

Just stumbled across this post and I sure wish I had known about the leaky boob support group before it was deleted because I so would have joined. If it re-assembles send an email my way. I want to know!


Natural Mama NZ January 4, 2011 at 9:45 PM

Hey Dagmar,

Great post, thanks for spreading the message about the discrimination against breastfeeding women on facebook. I wish there was something we could do from a legal point of view. I guess more publicity is whats needed at this point (news stories in major publications) to put pressure on facebook, to not look like oppressive, discriminative jerks.

Though stating our support is so important, it doesn’t seem to make a scrap of difference to facebook administrators. They just don’t care. Though I dearly hope I am proven wrong.

Keep up the great work Dagmar. And more power to all the breastfeeding mamas!


Star January 4, 2011 at 4:52 PM

Dagmar –

I apologize, then. And I honestly didn’t mean for that to come off rude. This was, indeed, the first time I had read or even heard of your blog.

Understand, from my point of view, I saw, “Hey, why even bother to get a FB page back…just go to my forums!” along with you having not been a “Leaky” before. I saw you comment about them on a few other blogs, as well. Having not interacted with you before, it was hard to know what tone to read that in…does that make sense? The internet can impede communication in that respect quite a bit. And everyone knows, the blogger world can be a pretty cutthroat one, especially (sadly) sometimes in the mom blog circles. I don’t envy you ladies with lots of readership some of the issues that come along with it, for sure.

And, again…you know the old saying about how if you want to ask a question, there are probably other people who want to/feel the same? If someone even for a second was concerned about my integrity in something I wrote, I would want to know – that way I could address those concerns (as you have here.) Again, I was more trying to get clarification than be upsetting, and I sincerely apologize if you felt attacked.


Dagmar January 4, 2011 at 5:04 PM

Star, thank you for reaching out and clarifying. Apology wholeheartedly appreciated and accepted. Glad to have found another lactivist and outspoken lady. :)



Tiffany @ No Ordinary Homestead January 4, 2011 at 1:24 PM

Wow. WTG Facebook. I’m sure someone’s kid wandered upon the page and was like, “what is that baby doing mommy?” The parent got all uncomfortable and didn’t want to talk about it, and therefore started a boycott of the page. Or something like that… ;)

I seriously breastfed all over the place, from the hospital ER to restaurants to Oktoberfest. Oh yeah, that’s how I roll. It is absolutely ridiculous how close minded and prude some people can be. Of course in Europe, it’s a whole other spectrum of strange but FB really hit a new low on this one.


Samantha Sophia January 4, 2011 at 1:06 AM

They really deleted it? That is so not cool!


Alison January 3, 2011 at 10:25 PM

Such a sad thing to happen. Why can’t people just get it? Breastfeeding is an amazing, natural thing. All other animals do it? why can’t we?


Star January 3, 2011 at 12:59 PM

Oh! And I want to clarify something. Facebook does NOT own your content. Here is there official statement concerning that:

“We are not claiming and have never claimed ownership of material that users upload. The new Terms were clarified to be more consistent with the behavior of the site. That is, if you send a message to another user (or post to their wall, etc…), that content might not be removed by Facebook if you delete your account (but can be deleted by your friend). Furthermore, it is important to note that this license is made subject to the user’s privacy settings. So any limitations that a user puts on display of the relevant content (e.g. To specific friends) are respected by Facebook. Also, the license only allows us to use the info “in connection with the Facebook Service or the promotion thereof.” Users generally expect and understand this behavior as it has been a common practice for web services since the advent of webmail. For example, if you send a message to a friend on a webmail service, that service will not delete that message from your friend’s inbox if you delete your account.”

Sorry to be nitpicky, I see that one a lot and am constantly telling people otherwise. Facebook’s original statement was (easily) misconstrued and it worried people quite a bit.


Star January 3, 2011 at 12:57 PM

I don’t usually mince words, as a rule, so I’m not going to start now.

The more this blog pops up in my feed on Facebook, on Twitter, whatever, the more it, well, kind of bothers me. And I thought I’d go ahead and address it on here so you can respond to it. Because if there’s on thing I’ve found in life, it’s that if one person is thinking something, generally several others are too. So better for you to get a chance to respond than for people just to think it. At least, that’s how I’d feel.

This blog post comes off as really uncaring and self serving. I mean, you reference your own stuff several times and flippantly write off Jessica’s (TLB creator) fan page like it’s no big deal. You pimp out all your own stuff, though, and I’ve even seen you do it on other blogs, in the comments. If your intent is to increase traffic to you because something awful happened to someone else, well, that plain sucks.

Also, you totally neglect the fact that Jessica *has* forums set up on her actual page. The FB page was, again, a fan page. http://www.theleakyboob.com/Forum/index.php is where they are….http://leakyboob.blogspot.com is her current actual blog. These get a LOT of traffic in and of themselves – the page on Facebook was generally just more helpful for people who, say, were on mobile phones or whatnot.

Now, you could just be coming off this way because you don’t actually know a lot about The Leaky B@@b. Considering the fact that you originally labeled “The Leaky Book” you clearly weren’t a Leaky. Which is fine – a few people have picked up the cause who weren’t originally fans, and that’s swell. And god knows we’re all pretty upset over this, so perhaps I’m reading more into this posting – and all of your other comments and such – than I should. But, again, if I’m thinking it, likely others are too – I’m not actually quite that unique in my opinions. Hopefully, you’ll clear it all up and we can all go back to being breastfeeding supporters.


Dagmar January 4, 2011 at 2:59 PM

You asked me “clear it all up,” whatever that means — I don’t think there is actually anything to clear up — but here I go:

“Dear Star, thank you for taking the time to comment on my post. I’m known for being outspoken and don’t mince words either: I have to tell you that I’m a bit stumped by your comment. I have had nothing but positive responses to my post about the Leaky Boob Facebook page deletion. People were glad to find out about the issue and happy to retweet the article or chime in, and Jessica herself contacted me on Twitter and has since mentioned my post in her post and left a sweet comment on my post, right after you.

When I found out about the Leaky Boob page deletion, I thankfully had time to write about it right away and wrote a quick post because as everyone who knows me knows, I’m passionate about breastfeeding and wanted the word out about Facebook’s ridiculous behavior.

My post was subsequently also published on my Twitter feed and Facebook page, and I contacted some of my lactivist friends about this issue as well. I’m sorry if that meant you ended up seeing the post pop up in different places, but I don’t see an issue with that. That’s what happens with blog posts.

How does my blog post “come off as really uncaring and self serving”? The last thing I’d ever want to be is uncaring and self-serving.

I added the link to my Breastfeeding page so people who are interested can find out why I’m so passionate about breastfeeding. After reading many comments on the Bring Back the Leaky Boob page of moms who said they need help and now don’t know where to turn, I added the link to my resource page to let them know that there are plenty of other resources to turn to.

One of the blogs listed on the page, BTW, is Jessica’s Leaky Boob blog. How you, another breastfeeding advocate, find linking to resources for breastfeeding moms I have compiled to be self-serving, I don’t comprehend.

I “flippantly write off Jessica’s (TLB creator) fan page like it’s no big deal”? Even Jessica herself didn’t see it that way. My blog post is about how important her Facebook page was for so many moms and I’m featuring it in my post! Since the page was deleted, I had nowhere to link to.

I wasn’t aware that she has another forum on her page, or I wouldn’t have offered to add another page to my blog to make up for the loss of community and support. I just wanted to offer moms of the group another place to go and was asking for input if that is something moms would like. It actually would have meant more administrative time for me to facilitate that or to figure out how to add a ning group. I’m perfectly fine with not adding that job to my workload but would have been happy to do it.

Since Jessica has a forum, another one isn’t needed. My offer still stands that if any moms feels strongly about wanting to post a picture of herself nursing her child(ren), she can do it on Dagmar’s momsense if Facebook doesn’t allow it.

I have never heard of your blog before — glad to find out that you are also passionate about breastfeeding — and I don’t think you are familiar with my blog, because if you were, you would know that I’m all about helping other moms and empowering them. That’s why I started writing Dagmar’s momsense. I won’t link to any particular examples about how I help out — it could be seen as self-serving. You wrote a blog post yourself about the Leaky Boob Facebook debacle, am I supposed to see that as self-serving? I don’t.

I’m an editor and type “book” many times a day, so forgive me for initially mistyping the name. I got it right in the title of the post.

Let’s move on.

All my best,


Jessica AKA The Leaky Boob January 3, 2011 at 10:14 AM


Thanks for sharing about this and raising awareness to the value of online breastfeeding communities. I just think it’s fabulous to have such a wide variety of ways for women to get the support they need. I’ve included your blog in my list of blogs that shared about the TLB story. Thanks!

In case you wanted to have links to The Leaky Boob, I thought I’d share those here for you.

The blog: http://leakyboob.blogspot.com/

The TLB forums (we talk about breastfeeding but LOTS more too!) http://www.theleakyboob.com/Forum/index.php

From those 2 sites you can find the Facebook pages Bring Back The Leaky Boob and TLB Support where the same ol’ Leaky wisdom is flowing.


Dagmar January 4, 2011 at 3:09 PM

Hi Jessica,

it’s been so lovely to connect with you on Twitter, and thank you for your comment here. I made a point to update my post to include the links to your blog and the Bring Back the Leaky Boob FB page.

Thanks for including my post in your post, I hope that my post helped a little to bring even more awareness to the loss of your great community. Let me know if I can help out in any other way.

I’m so exited to see that there are 7,700+ “like” votes of support on the FB page, so much support is needed for moms who breastfeed. Seeing that makes my heart soar and all the work I put into making breastfeeding and NIP more common so worth it. Thank you for the important, needed, work you do.
All my best,


Kristen -- Adventures in Mommyhood January 3, 2011 at 6:03 AM

Just ridiculous! I’ve been thinking of taking a fb sabbatical, but things like this (and they keep happening) make me just want to be rid of fb altogether.


Whitney January 3, 2011 at 2:03 AM

This is one of the MANY reasons that I no longer have a Facebook. Plus, I like talking to people in person.

Being social is 2011. Social media is 2010.


Jen January 3, 2011 at 4:43 AM

Found your blog through twitter and just started to follow you. I think that it is ridiculous that pages like that are deleted yet some of the totally sexual pictures people have on their personal pages are still allowed.


AJ January 3, 2011 at 4:20 AM

Maybe we should try to organize a giant boycott of letter writing or something. This is soooo not ok. I see these sick groups that tons of people report and they keep them up but they remove a BF support group??? Something is sooooo wrong with FB!


Crystal - Prenatal Coach January 3, 2011 at 2:28 AM

This is SO frustrating and it seems to be happening more often. I’m not even going to start ranting because I’d be preaching to the choir but just wanted to leave a comment of support.


Brooke January 2, 2011 at 8:24 PM

I quit Facebook for several reasons. The main reason was their hypocritical stance on nudity while attacking breastfeeding but allowing smut to remain. The last straw was when they shut down Momzelle’s page when she sells nursing attire. Complete absurdity. Imagine what Facebook would do if all the offended nursing & supportive mothers quit Facebook instead of being outraged and remaining apart of a network that is anti-breastfeeding. That would really send a message.


Sandra Luke January 2, 2011 at 7:55 PM

You can use all of my pictures I posted on the ‘Bring Back the Leaky Boob’ page.
Or if you want me to e-mail them to you, I will. :)


kelly @kellynaturally January 2, 2011 at 7:45 PM

Hi Dagmar,
I am constantly astounded by Facebook’s backwards and utterly hypocritical policy on “obscenity” when it comes to breastfeeding breasts.
I’ve thought about deleting my facebook accounts as well.
I am in full support of your breastfeeding community page on Dagmar’s Momsense & would be happy to write about it on my blog & Tweet it as well if it’s something you go through with!


MamaBennie January 2, 2011 at 7:26 PM

That is ridiculous….what, is Nursing Freedom next?! I have pictures of me on Nursing Freedom. My blood is boiling over this. The whole world may be trying to hide all of us in a closet, but we will not be hidden or silenced. I am not normally outspoken, or do I consider myself a lactivist, but I could not be more upset right now. The sad part is that Facebook usually only shuts pages down when someone reports them for abuse. I think Facebook is the one being abusive….of the right to breastfeed.


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