In the last week, things have changed around here. All of a sudden, it takes me half an hour or longer to get Landon to nap. Whereas before he would lie down with me and fall asleep nursing within minutes, he now breastfeeds for a minute and then wants to play some more. No matter how many times I tell him that it’s nap time now, and although he is tired, he won’t fall asleep until after nursing and then playing and nursing and playing some more — and not without me finally resorting to threats and getting really stern with him, which I don’t like to do. When he does finally fall asleep, he naps for over an hour — sometimes two — which indicates to me that he still needs his nap.
After being a baby who rarely napped for more than 20 minutes, I am glad that L has turned into a kid that takes longer naps. I need the time to get things done, be it housework or editing/blogging work — or watching an episode of Flipping Out. And I like having that breather, because Mr. L has turned into Mr. Cranky Pants lately, being very demanding, unusually bossy, and whinny. I believe this to be only a phase (he is turning three in a month) and I can otherwise not complain, but it is nice to have that break in the middle of the day when he naps (to watch Flipping Out or 18 Kids and Counting — well, I’ve stopped counting a while ago).
So I have been wondering if I should just stop naps altogether. He seems to signal that he doesn’t want/need them any more. The other component in my consideration is that Don is starting to complain that L is going to bed so late. Landon has always gone to bed very late, even as a baby. I get him to sleep at around 10 p.m. and he sleeps until 8 a.m. or 9 a.m. Don feels like he/we don’t have an evening, since we are busy entertaining/playing with L until he goes to bed, and right after that Don falls asleep after a hard day’s work.
I have tried to get L to go to sleep earlier, every time with the same result: if I try to get him to sleep at 9 p.m., it will take me an hour to get him down. It seems that junior has this set time that work for him, which is around 10 p.m. If I nurse him at 10 p.m., he is usually out after only a few minutes. (I would love it if Don would try to establish a bedtime routine with L –- one that doesn’t involve wound-up pillow fights and tickle attacks — but that is wishful thinking, ladies. Daddy has the excuse that I am the only one with breasts full of milk, so that’s why he doesn’t even want to try to get his son to sleep. It would take a lot of patience to get L to sleep without nursing him. But once L self-weans, Daddy is soo going to have to help out with this!)
I assume that if I cut out his nap during the day, L will be ready to go to sleep much earlier, maybe at 8 p.m., which Don would love. But I hesitate to stop the naps because other moms have told me that I should hang on to them as long as possible and I’d rather have the alone time during the day and not at night.
What do you think? What would you do in my situation, stop the naps or keep them? At what age did your child stop to nap?